I believe that all parents love their kids. I cannot believe that any parent really wants to hurt their kids.  I think that when a parent says “this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you,” they believe it. They do not want to hurt their children, physically, mentally, emotionally, but they don’t know what else to do.

Many people believe that they need to punish their children so that they will grow up to be good people. They are wrong. It’s like the old saying, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” When a kid does something the parent thinks is wrong, the wrong of hurting that kid does not make everything right.

The Power of Respect gives parents a powerful, harmless way of helping their kids learn to make good choices. You can use Power of Respect Tools, Skills and Strategies to save your kids from the five harms of ruler-ruled parenting:

1. Blind Followers: Kids who participate in the strategy that ends conflict are used to going for what they want without stepping on others to get it. They are not in the habit of blindly following anyone.
2. Non-Thinkers: Because they are used to getting their needs met in their family, they are used to thinking about what they want. Through the process of making decisions and experiencing the results, they have probably learned to be careful in their decisions so that they won’t get results they don’t want. That takes thinking.
3. Resisters, Rebels, Revolutionaries: Because of the use of the Power of Respect in their family, there is no need to get stuck in resisting or rebeling against anything. They know that they won’t be forced to do something they don’t want to do. They know that everyone in their family cooperates with each other. Everyone in their family is respectful to each other. This is their habit.
4. Bullies: These kids have lived lives full of cooperation, respect and helpfulness. This is what they are full of and this is what they give out. No bullies here.
5. Unfulfilled Lives: Because they are encouraged and helped to experience what they want to experience in life they live fulfilled lives. They are not torn away from their center at a young age. They are encouraged to stay in touch with their center, to dream and follow their dreams, to believe in themselves and what they want to be and do in life, moment by moment.

These are just five possible harms of ruler-ruled parenting. There are many more troubles created by this approach (read the chapter Social Ills in Parenting with the Power of Respect). Learn to use the Power of Respect and avoid all of that trouble for you and your kids.

Check out my websites. At http://www.parentchidlteacher.com you can sign up for a free mini-course. At http://www.besthelpfortroubledteens.comyou can sign up for a free ebook. You can also check out http://powerofrespect.wordpress.com. Soon a full course based on my ebook Parenting with the Power of Respect will be available.